Don’t Go Near Him…Something Is Wrong With Him

don't be afraidOne day when I went to the pet supply store to get dog food, I took Rugby with me. It was a rainy day and there were very few people in the store. As always, Rugby was scoping out everything at his eye level. I was focused on my errand and we were walking in that direction when I heard people talking.

I heard a child say, “Mommy look at that doggie in the wheelchair.” Then I heard a woman’s voice saying, “Don’t go near him. There is something wrong with him. Let’s just go the other way. No. You can’t Pet him. something is wrong with him.” This was not the first time something like this happened.

It was almost like Rugby was telling himself what to do, “If they can’t come to me, I’ll go to them.”

At that moment, I felt Rugby pulling me down the aisle and around the corner to the next aisle where the children and their mother were. I saw the mother put her hands on her children’s shoulders and hold them. Rugby pulled me right over to them and then barked. It wasn’t a loud bark. It was more like a “woof.”

The little girl looked at her mother and asked her, “Mommy, can’t we pet him please?”  I don’t know if the mother was embarrassed or just confused but she still held their shoulders and said nothing. “Mommy, can we?”

I decided that I needed to put my two cents in so I said, “It’s okay. They can pet him. They won’t catch anything.” She gave me a questioning look and I told her that I knew that she was concerned and that Rugby wouldn’t hurt her children in any way. Quite the contrary.

She released her hold on the children as if to tell them that they could pet him. I explained that Rugby had been in an accident and that he needed the wheelchair because of paralysis.

As the children and Rugby interacted happily, she and I talked. When we were ready to say good bye, she told her children something that I will never forget.

“Emily and Alex, don’t ever be afraid of anyone who is different from you. Try to understand what they are going through and be kind because that is how you want to be treated.”

What a lesson those children learned on that day. What lessons are you teaching your children?

Our Newest Heroes: Tyrell Clay and Those Who Modeled Kindness

tyrellWe salute heroes. We share stories about people who do something that many people wouldn’t or couldn’t do. Our heroes make a difference for someone or for many and they come from every walk of life and every age.

Our newest hero is a student at Miller High School in Corpus Christi, Texas. His name is Tyrell Clay and he was best known among his classmates and his community as a four year star quarterback, excelling basketball player and winning track team member. For the Miller Bucs, Tyrell has been a school hero since he arrived on the scene but all of his achievements paled in comparison to his actions at the school prom.

Miller High School students had nominated Tyrell Clay for prom king and nobody was surprised because of his sports prowess, attractive looks and friendly personality. They also nominated Adam Chadwick for prom king. Adam’s nomination came as a surprise to Adam and all who heard about his nomination. You see, Adam was not popular. Adam was not into sports. Adam was the target of bullies. Adam wasn’t even sure that he was going to the prom. Adam had asked several girls to go to the prom with him and they declined.

So the questions became, “Is Adam being nominated as a joke or could the nomination be real?”  Nobody seemed to know.  All they knew was that two boys who had taken very different paths in school had been nominated. These two boys who had known each other since grammar school were both the nominees for prom king.

When a voice announced that Tyrell Clay had been voted prom king, nobody was surprised. Tyrell was crowned and smiling from ear to ear but in his glory he watched Adam. Tyrell was quoted as saying, “I could see like the disappointment in Adam’s face. He was like really red and he was looking down to the ground…We had made a bet in first period and I told him if you get king, I will bow to you.”

Within one minute this amazing young man changed the life of Adam Chadwick. He walked over to him, removed the crown that had been his and placed it on Adam’s head. Then he bowed to Adam. At that moment, everyone began to cheer. Tyrell said, “It was pretty amazing, I kind of liked it. And he got a real happy like smile, it was pretty funny. It was pretty sad, I wanted to cry, but I was like no you can’t cry.”

Adam said, “He walks across the floor, and puts the crown on my head and it probably wasn’t a minute, but I felt like I was frozen for a minute.”

And then Adam danced with the prom queen and other girls.

There are actually several heroes in this story. It goes without saying that Tyrell’s unselfish and kind actions make him a hero but there are other heroes. The other heroes are the people who modeled kindness and unselfishness for him to emulate.

Parents, you have so much responsibility when it comes to your children.

He Doesn’t Hate All “Anybody”

victorToday’s post is actually a post that was made by one of my Facebook friends a few days ago. Actually, I must clarify something. He is not just a Facebook friend. He is a real friend and one whom I have grown to respect a lot over the years. One of the reasons is because he has the courage of his convictions but does not go on attack mode in order to stand up for what he believes, quite the contrary! I am confident that you will see what I mean when you read and digest his words.

April 20, 2013

“I’ve been quiet here about recent events because – well really, what’s the point? But this morning while having my first cup of coffee and reading my personal E-mail there was one from an old friend who I’ve known for over 20 years and grew up with his wife. I was glad to see a note from him. And then I opened the E-mail and began reading.

He forwarded me something that is apparently circling the internet about Muslims. It contained the most vile, hateful, racist rants I think I’ve ever seen and ended with the statement – “If you’re a true patriot you’ll forward this.”

I closed it without commenting back to him because I don’t think I have the strength to tell him how shocked and disgusted it made me feel. Maybe silence is the best response. Maybe not – I know you’re supposed to stand up to racism and hatred whenever you see it, but when it comes from someone who is your friend, someone you’ve shared good and bad times with, someone who’s friendship you value, what do you do? I’ll have to think long and hard about how to word any response I make – IF I respond at all.

I don’t hate all Muslims any more than I hate all Germans for the holocaust, all Japanese for Pearl Harbor or all Christians because their church doesn’t welcome homosexuals. I don’t hate “all” anybody. There is enough hate in the world.

I’m turning off my TV today, not reading the news and spending the day planning my vegetable garden.” 

~ Victor Martorano

Thank you, Victor. Our world is a better place because of you. The baby you are holding is lucky to have you to help him learn about the true meaning of kindness.

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