What is the deal with bullying? I mean really? What is it that give bullies such a charge when they are mean?
Maybe the bullies…
- Don’t feel empathy and so they can’t understand how bullied kids feel.
- Think there is some pay off for hurting other kids.
- Are jealous of other kids.
- Don’t have to suffer consequences.
- Haven’t been taught about The Golden Rule.
Whatever the reasons are, something needs to be done to stop them. I think a lot of people make bullying situations too complicated. When that happens, the solution to stopping the bullies gets too complicated. When solutions are too complicated, nobody succeeds.
Who wants complicated? Being nice is simple and so should the way we stop bullying. Since bullies aren’t kind we need to do simple things to stop them. When the bullying situations are explained in simple ways, the solutions can be explained in simple ways that everyone gets. When they get it, they can succeed at stopping the bullies.
Bullying – Make It Simple
If you are a kid:
- Team up with a kid who is being bullied and ask other kids to join your team. There is strength in numbers.
- Ask someone specific to team up with you if you are being bullied. Then ask that kid to get others to team up with you.
- Try not to show your sadness when someone hurts your feelings. Instead you can say something like, “ Does making a comment like that help you feel better about yourself?” And then walk away.
If you are an adult:
- Pay closer attention to what is happening with the kids around you.
- Let kids know that bullying will not be tolerated and give appropriate consequences.
- Be fair and make sure that the consequences apply to everyone. Don’t make excuses. Bullying is bullying.
That’s pretty simple… don’t you think? Kindness is shameless and painless. I would love to have you on the Rugby Jones’ No Bully Zones Team! How about it?
There are times in life when we ask, “Why did this have to happen to me? Why did this have to happen to the person I love? Why does life have to be so difficult?” There are people who seem to live their lives free of problems. Then there are times when we come across people who have had terrible things happen and they remain upbeat.
Even more than that, we come across people who seem to relish in learning how to do things in new ways. They have an energy and positivity that is infectious. They offer each and every one of us lessons about the strength we have within.
Such is the case with a youngster named Kayden Elijah Kinckle who was born with omphalocele which is a type of hernia that can cause organs to grow outside of the body. In Kayden’s case, according to his mother’s Facebook post, Kayden’s intestine and abdominal organs formed on the outside of his navel.
In addition, Kayden’s legs and feet were trapped under his mother’s pelvis which caused his bones to become deformed. According to his mother, the doctors said that he wouldn’t survive and suggested that she terminate her pregnancy. Thankfully his mother didn’t listen. The youngster did survive and has been healthy enough to have corrective surgeries that included the amputation of his right foot and his left leg.
Kayden Elijah Kinckle proclaims,”I got it. I got it. I got it”
If you are feeling sorry for yourself and need a “pick me up” or a “kick in the pants “ this video might be exactly what the doctor ordered.
If you are so busy that you can’t watch the entire 1 minute 55 second video, do yourself a favor and watch it from the 1 minute point when Kayden exclaims, “I got it. I got it. I got it.”
His delight is infectious. Maybe you will catch a bit of his positivity! I sure did.
You can find out more about Kayden Kinckle here.