Children’s Holiday Needs

children's holiday needsI want to tell you parents something about children’s holiday needs because I really get kids. I am pretty much a kid myself, as a lot of you know.

If your kids are facing the holidays without a “whole” family you have to try to understand the sadness and worries that they have.

Sometimes a family isn’t “whole” because someone has passed. Sometimes the reason can be that a parent is away from home for the holidays or sometimes it can be because of a divorce. You need to understand that the first time without a “whole” family is the hardest but even after that it is still hard.

Children’s Holiday Needs

There are a few things that you can to help your children’s holiday needs do so that things will go better. A good start is to ask them to share their concerns and as they do, really listen. Listen to what they say and pay attention to what they don’t say too!

Kids often hold back from sharing their feelings because they don’t want to add more sadness to the situation. It helps so much to have a parent or parents who let kids know that their children’s holiday needs and what they are feeling is okay and in fact expected and very normal. When parents listen and are understanding, kids feel better. That’s the truth!Screen Shot 2014-12-15 at 5.20.07 PM

It’s okay if you are sad about your “damaged” family situation but please for the sake of your kids, don’t be selfish about it. Think of children’s holiday needs  this Christmas Season. They need your help. It’s a great idea to try to make new traditions that will help you and your kids feel better about the different family situation. Let’s say that you always celebrated in a certain way, try to think of a new and different way to celebrate. Maybe inviting other people to celebrate with you could help everyone feel better..

Another really good thing to do is try to involve your kids in the decisions about what you will do as a family to celebrate the holidays. It’s always a good idea for kids to be able to have their friends with them so put out an invitation or say the door is open for all of their friends to visit or celebrate with your family.

If you have any questions just ask. I have a lot of parents and kids who have helped me to be aware of new and different ways to celebrate.

Moving Away

moving awayDo you know how hard it is on kids when they are moving away and changing schools? Well, I can tell you that it’s really hard. There are a lot of reasons and adults need to understand what they have to go through so that they can help to make it easier for them.

Don’t ever lie to your kids about moving away but that doesn’t mean that you should tell them things that are not meant for children to know. Remember that adults should deal with adult things and children should only need to deal with children’s things.

Don’t make promises about moving away that you can’t keep. That may help in the beginning but it won’t help later on. In fact it will usually make things worse because the kids will be disappointed plus they won’t believe things that you tell them in the future.

The most important thing to remember is that kids need to feel safe, secure and loved. Moving away to a bigger or better house really doesn’t matter to kids. They are afraid of changing schools and friends and being uprooted from all that they have known.

Moving Away

Take the kids to visit the new school they will be attending. It would be very helpful if they could meet some of the kids and that way they will know kids when school starts. That will make them feel a little more secure.

It will also help if the kids can see the new house or apartment before they move. It will also help if they know they can take their toys and pets with them.

Pets really help kids to feel happier if they move away or when life changes. Even though I think the best pets are dogs, having dogs isn’t always possible. Another good pet is a cat. Sometimes kids like gerbils and guinea pigs. If none of these are possible, fish can also be good pets.

 

 

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