Monthly Archives: November 2010

An Annoying Classmate

Parents, if your kids talk to you about an annoying kid in their school, please ask WHY the kid is annoying. Young kids can’t understand special needs kids if they aren’t educated on the subject.

Sure they get it when they see a kid in a wheelchair, using a white cane or the like but they don’t get other issues unless an adult explains.

As an example, kids with Asperger’s Syndrome might seem annoying to other kids and because of that Aspergers kids can often be the targets of bullying.

If you have a child who has been diagnosed with Aspergers, you get this only too well. It’s the adults who don’t know what Aspergers is that this post is directed toward.

So backtracking, if your child mentions a tattletale, goodie-goodie or annoying classmate, ask a few questions.

1.  Does the kid ever look you in the eye?

2.  Does the kid act like he or she cares about the feelings of others?

3.  Does the kid adjust well to changes like fire drills, schedule changes or substitute teachers?

4.  Does the kid wait his or her turn to talk or take action?

5.  Does the kid have facial expressions like the other kids?

6.  Does the kid know a lot about one subject and talk about it even when no one is listening?

7.  Do loud noises or lights make the kid react differently from the other kids?

If your child answers “no” to any of the 1-5 questions and “yes” to either 6 or 7, there is a possibility that the annoying kid has Asperger’s Syndrome. You need to explain that to your child so that he or she will understand that the “annoying kid” isn’t aware or in control of the actions that are annoying.

Encourage your child to overlook the annoying habits and above all explain that there is zero tolerance for bullying anyone and that there will be consequences if your child breaks the rules. Encourage your child to “stick up” for the annoying kid.

Contact the school and advise administration about the conversation you had with your child about the “annoying kid.”

Guess what? You just might save a life. That would feel pretty good. Wouldn’t it?

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Bullies: A Thanksgiving Prayer

Dear God, hopefully you are listening. I know how busy you are.

Will you please teach bullies that being kind can make you feel good too? Will you help them understand that they can be just as happy if they don’t laugh at me or call me names?

I know I’m just a kid but I know about these things. Well, I’m sure you already know all about me. You know how sad I am. You know how alone I am. And you know how afraid I am.

Maybe you could visit the bullies as they have their Thanksgiving dinners and somehow teach them that Thanksgiving should be about being thankful and helping people who are alone.

I never tried to be mean to anyone because that just isn’t right. You and my mom taught me that. They don’t even have to say sorry, I’ll forgive them if they just stop laughing at me and calling me names. Well, I forgive them anyway but it would make me happier if they stopped.

When they are eating their Thanksgiving dinners, maybe you could just whisper in their ears that bullying makes you unhappy. That could make a really big difference because after all, you are God and you are very, very important at least to some people.

I’m not important and nobody cares if I die, at least that’s what they tell me. I know you understand how I feel because your son was bullied too.

So God, please help the bullies and their parents understand what it feels like. Maybe you could even tell them about your son Jesus and how much he suffered.

My mom has to work on Thanksgiving but that’s okay because she loves me just like you do. I’m used to being alone so don’t worry about me for now because it’s more important that you help the bullies understand that they are upsetting you too.

I love you God and I know you love me and that sure helps. Oh and I almost forgot to ask you if you will tell the kids who are watching to do something to help kids being bullied?

Thank you God. Amen.

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Troublesome Bullying?

Senator Williams said something that demonstrates part of the issue with the pandemic of suicides. He stated, ” Cyberbullying, as online or electronic bullying is called, is just as troublesome as physical bullying.” Just as troublesome? How many kids who were physically bullied committed suicide? The problem is far greater because digital abuse might beContinue Reading

Bullying: Why?

There is a very interesting site that we like. The quote below is from one of the posts on www.everyoneneedstherapy.com. The Kid With The Funny Laugh “The doctor explained that kids who are violent—either verbally or physically—are sometimes copying their parents or older siblings. If kids are allowed to fight at home, or if theyContinue Reading