This question doesn’t need to be answered out loud. In fact, the question and the answer should be absorbed into your very being.
As you interact with your children, really think about it. Don’t be dishonest with yourself because even if you don’t admit it, your children know how you feel.
I was one of the lucky ones. I remember being asked about the favoritism I felt for any of my children. I could answer honestly. My favorite child on any given day was the one who was not acting out on that day. With four children, my favorite changed day by day.
There are many issues that occur when a parent or parents favor one child over another.
The favored child can feel guilt, power or confidence.
The child who is not favored can
- have a lack confidence
- spend a lifetime trying to become favored
- bully the favored child with put downs or physical abuse
- continually beat others down in order to build up themselves
Children who are favored or not favored can grow into well adjusted adults sometimes and sometimes they can’t. You must own your feelings and be aware of the effect they are having on all of your children.
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