Monthly Archives: April 2011

Feeling Inconsequential Is Excrutiating!

What is bullying really? I am not talking about the dictionary or encyclopedia definition. I am talking about what bullying is and what it does to the people who are being bullied.

How can bullying come in to play?

  • Bullying can involve physical abuse.
  • Bullying can involve emotional abuse in many forms.
  • Bullying can involve gossip.
  • Bullying can involve destroying a person’s dignity via the internet.
  • Bullying can involve a total lack of attention to the fact that a person exists.

When there are no specific breeches of appropriate behavior, authorities do not  take action because they don’t acknowledge any wrong doing. If authorities are to have success with eradicating bullying, they must acknowledge what they can see and what they can’t see.

When people are ignored, they feel unacknowledged and unimportant. When people are ignored or rejected, they try to cope in whatever way they know can. When people are ignored or rejected, they can become depressed because they feel alone an unloved. When people are ignored or rejected, they can think that suicide or murder will offer an escape from the pain that is being inflicted upon them.

When people believe that their very being is inconsequential and invisible, the pain is excruciating. When pain is that excruciating, people try to escape any way they can.

Please, don’t ignore what is not obvious!

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Dharun Ravi Indicted for Hate Crime

It is so important that parents stop bullying behavior before it’s too late for the kid being bullied and the bully. It continues to shock me that there are actually parents who take pride in the fact that their kids are bullying.

If any of you think this way, here is something to think about!

Dharun Ravi, the Rutgers University freshman accused of bullying Tyler Clementi to death, was just charged by the grand jury for committing a hate crime.

He was indicted by New Jersey with 15-counts and he was charged with bias intimidation, invasion of privacy, witness and evidence tampering, among others.

As I’m sure most of you remember, there was a cruel videoing of eighteen year old Tyler Climenti’s private life. Tyler’s roommate Ravi spread the vicious video on the internet. The result was that Tyler Climenti jumped off of the George Washington Bridge and died.

Ravi is also accused of trying to destroy evidence about his Twitter feed where he asked his Twitter followers to watch the video.

Tyler’s parents called Ravi “cold” after the news of the indictment was made public. They said, “The grand jury indictment spells out cold and calculated acts against our son Tyler by his former college roommate. If these facts are true, as they appear to be, then it is important for our criminal justice system to establish clear accountability under the law.”

So parents, think about what this bully is facing. Stop your kids. There is nothing to be proud of and everything to fear.

Phot: Smath

Children’s Lessons on Life!

I visited some children and their parents at The Shriner’s Hospital for Children in Philadelphia. The kids were patients who had suffered spinal cord injuries. The families were from many states including Illinois, Connecticut, Maryland, Virginia and North Carolina. One little fellow was only two years old and he and his parents had driven overContinue Reading

Bullies: Targeting Kids with SCIs

We spent the afternoon today at The Shriners Hospital for Children in Philadelphia. The emotions that we are feeling are beyond belief. One of the things that hit us really hard is the fact that kids who are suffering with SCIs (spinal cord injuries) are being targeted by bullies. As if dealing with a spinalContinue Reading

The Courage of Children

We are very excited to have been given the opportunity tomorrow to visit with the kids who are in treatment at the Shriners Hospital for Children in Philadelphia. We will be sharing The “Tail” of Rugby Jones: A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability with the kids. We can’t wait for them to hear Rugby’sContinue Reading

3 Reasons Why You Should Be A Bully

Some parents interact with their children. Some don’t. Some parents read with their kids. Some don’t. Some parents do activities with their children. Some don’t. Some parents talk to and listen to their children. Some don’t. We all know that bullying is a danger in all schools today. One of the best ways that parentsContinue Reading

Will What You Don’t Know Hurt Your Kids?

So many parents are under the misapprehension that their children are obeying their every word all of the time. Kids are unbelievably resourceful and the sooner parents understand that fact, the better off both the children and the parents will be. These are a few of the comments that parents have made to me recently.Continue Reading

I Am The Target Of Adult Bullies

It’s amazing that life’s curve balls can teach so much if you are open to them. As you know, this site is about helping people of all ages to gain self confidence and learn about bullying, its causes and ways to defend against it. Little did I ever expect that I would be bullied atContinue Reading

Good Kids? This Will Shock You!

We have all heard of sexting in the news. The reality is that just like cyber bullying, it is running rampant with teens and tweens. These kids just don’t get the dangers. Kids don’t need to be online to get in trouble. All it takes is a cell phone.  A dad sent me this listContinue Reading

Why Parents Can’t Say No

Do you want to do a disservice to your children? If you do not say no, do not give consequences, are not consistent or are not predictable in your actions, you do a disservice to your children. Reasons why parents do not say no Some parents just want to be popular. Some parents are justContinue Reading