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Fat Woman’s Email

fat womanRecently we received an email that was heartbreaking but it was also an eye opener. A woman wrote us about her story. There is no need to detail every specific but some of what she wrote is pertinent and must be shared. Her email was signed, “from a fat woman.”

 

Why share her email?

  • It shows some things that parents might not know about their children.
  • It shows things that kids might not know about themselves.
  • It could change the way people act.

 The following are parts of “a fat woman ’s” email:

“…I found this site and want to tell you my story. I’m not sure why because my opinion doesn’t seem to matter much but maybe my story might help somebody else likes me. I’m 43 years old and I’m fat. I’ve been fat my whole life. I was a fat kid and now I’m a fat woman. I’m not talking overweight. I’m talking fat. I’m 5’6” and I weigh more than 300 pounds almost 313 pounds.

…When I was in school, everybody laughed at me and called me the whale. Here comes the whale they said. I tried to laugh and make fun of myself so the kids wouldn’t how bad I felt. Here comes the whale I said. When I went home and tried to tell my parents who were fat too they told me not to worry and asked me what I wanted to eat to help me feel better. They gave me cake and sweets to make me feel better. Somehow it worked sort of. At least it did when I was at home but the next day at school I got sadder…  

…I got depressed.  I started to cut myself with knifes. I don’t remember why or how I started or when I stopped but hurting myself made me feel better. I tried to tell my parents about how bad it was and they just kept telling me that the kids were stupid and that they didn’t know real beauty. I didn’t believe them. I could see what I looked like and I wasn’t beautiful. I was fat and I looked ugly. They said let’s not talk about it. Let’s bake some cookies. I got what the kids said about me. I was different than them and that made me feel bad every minute every day…

…Now I work at a job and people don’t see me. I know I wouldn’t have my job if customers had to look at me because I’m such a fat woman. When I get off work and get on the bus and go home, I see how people look at me. I can hear words they don’t say. I hear you are fat. You are ugly. What’s wrong with you? Why don’t you stop eating so much? Why are you so fat? Than I can hear the kids from when I was a kid saying here come the whale. I’m a whale. I was a whale then and I’m a whale now. I’m just a fat woman that still looks like a whale…

…Trust me when I say a fat kid isn’t happy and a fat woman isn’t happy either…” 

If you need more food for thought, please watch the video below about Jennifer Livingston and how she handled a bullying situation regarding her weight.

To be continued.

Photo: Tony Alter

Blind Gymnast – Lola Walters


blind gymnastAs parents, we want our children to be happy and safe and we hope that they will succeed in life. Where do we draw the line between keeping them safe and allowing them to blossom?

What would you say if your child were legally blind and wanted to do gymnastics?

That is what the parents of Lola Walters had to decide. Lola is a USA Gymnastics Level 6 gymnast which means that she does handspring vaults, jumps to the high bar and “fly aways” on bars, back walkovers and leaps on beam and she is legally blind. She has a condition called nystagmus that limits her vision, causes her eyes to flutter, allows no depth perception, and often causes double vision.

Usually athletes can see what is in front of them… whether it is a vault or a bar or an opponent. In Lola’s case, she has not idea what is in front of her until she is about five feet away from it because she is legally blind. You can see this blind gymnast in action on Youtube.

Lola’s mom said, “She can see. It’s just that what is in front of her constantly moves and she can not judge distances or focus.”

Lola’s coach is quoted as saying, “She works twice as hard as everybody else and I’ve seen her fall harder than anybody, and she’ll get up and go again, every single time.”

Blind Gymnast

This amazing young woman sees her disability in a very different way from the way most of us would see it. She said, “Most people I compete with don’t know I am any different from them, and as far as I’m concerned it can stay that way. If they don’t know, they don’t need to score me differently.”

Lola has been a gymnast since she was three years old. It wasn’t until after Lola was enrolled in gymnastics that her mother understood just how
bad her vision was. By that time, she was already a good gymnast.

“I don’t know what it would be like to do gymnastics with perfect vision,” “so really, I don’t see a difference.”Had her mother held her back in fear of her getting hurt, Lola would not be where she is today. We already know about out Olympic gold medalist Gabby Douglas. Gabby met Lola and said, “This is such an amazing moment for me. I am star struck. Lola, you are truly incredible. This truly shows what a mind can do. If you love something and have a passion for something, you won’t let anything stop you. You are amazing.”

So parents, back to my original question, Where do we draw the line between keeping them safe and allowing them to blossom?

Lola Walters is our newest hero.

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