Recently we received an email that was heartbreaking but it was also an eye opener. A woman wrote us about her story. There is no need to detail every specific but some of what she wrote is pertinent and must be shared. Her email was signed, “from a fat woman.”
Why share her email?
- It shows some things that parents might not know about their children.
- It shows things that kids might not know about themselves.
- It could change the way people act.
The following are parts of “a fat woman ’s” email:
“…I found this site and want to tell you my story. I’m not sure why because my opinion doesn’t seem to matter much but maybe my story might help somebody else likes me. I’m 43 years old and I’m fat. I’ve been fat my whole life. I was a fat kid and now I’m a fat woman. I’m not talking overweight. I’m talking fat. I’m 5’6” and I weigh more than 300 pounds almost 313 pounds.
…When I was in school, everybody laughed at me and called me the whale. Here comes the whale they said. I tried to laugh and make fun of myself so the kids wouldn’t how bad I felt. Here comes the whale I said. When I went home and tried to tell my parents who were fat too they told me not to worry and asked me what I wanted to eat to help me feel better. They gave me cake and sweets to make me feel better. Somehow it worked sort of. At least it did when I was at home but the next day at school I got sadder…
…I got depressed. I started to cut myself with knifes. I don’t remember why or how I started or when I stopped but hurting myself made me feel better. I tried to tell my parents about how bad it was and they just kept telling me that the kids were stupid and that they didn’t know real beauty. I didn’t believe them. I could see what I looked like and I wasn’t beautiful. I was fat and I looked ugly. They said let’s not talk about it. Let’s bake some cookies. I got what the kids said about me. I was different than them and that made me feel bad every minute every day…
…Now I work at a job and people don’t see me. I know I wouldn’t have my job if customers had to look at me because I’m such a fat woman. When I get off work and get on the bus and go home, I see how people look at me. I can hear words they don’t say. I hear you are fat. You are ugly. What’s wrong with you? Why don’t you stop eating so much? Why are you so fat? Than I can hear the kids from when I was a kid saying here come the whale. I’m a whale. I was a whale then and I’m a whale now. I’m just a fat woman that still looks like a whale…
…Trust me when I say a fat kid isn’t happy and a fat woman isn’t happy either…”
If you need more food for thought, please watch the video below about Jennifer Livingston and how she handled a bullying situation regarding her weight.
To be continued.
Photo: Tony Alter