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Words or How You Made Them Feel

words and how they made them feelMy human mom was listening to some people talk about what words to use wen meeting new people.They were talking about wanting to make good impressions with their words.  My mom said that people remember how you make them feel and not about your exact words.

I thought about that a lot and I know she is right. Do you want to know why? Well I’ll tell you. When I mess up on something, she knows what to do to make me feel better. I can’t remember the words she uses but I sure know how she makes me feel.

She remembers how they made her feel, not their words.

There is a great story she tells about getting lost after a conference one night in Philadelphia. It was at about 10 PM and she thought she remembered the parking garage where she parked her car but it wasn’t there. After seeing that there were many more nearby garages, she worried that she might not find it.  She went to a hotel lobby and asked a man to help her. It was wintertime and she was cold and tired. The man’s name was George and he tried to help her find it but they couldn’t find her car.

George told her of someone who might be able to help her and they went to see Juan. George told Juan the situation and my human mom and Juan set out to find the car. It was after midnight. They walked from garage to garage and didn’t give up. Finally they found the car. My mom was so relieved and she and Juan exchanged phone numbers so that they could meet again.

People asked my mom after that happened how she dared to wander around the streets of Philadelphia in the middle of the night with two strangers. She said, “I don’t remember what they said but they made me feel safe. They made me feel like they cared. They made me feel like they were my friends.”

Guess what? They were and still are!

Empathy Is Caring

empathyWhen I think about things that have made me the happiest, I think about people and animals that have shown how much they care because they had empathy. Empathy shows caring. Don’t you agree? It’s really strange because I keep hearing people say that money will make them happy or a bigger house or a nicer car will make all of the difference. I hear kids say that if they could be on the football team or in the popular group, they would be happy.

Do you know what I think? I think that when people place focus on one special thing to make them happy, they will miss all of the wonderful things that might make all of the difference for them. They forget to show or appreciate empathy.

Someone shared this story with us. I think it may change your day. At the very least, it will help you understand caring and empathy.


“A storeowner was tacking a sign above his door that read “Puppies for Sale.” Signs like that have a way of attracting small children, and sure enough a little boy appeared under the storeowner’s sign. “How much are you going to sell the puppies for?” the little boy asked. The storeowner replied, “anywhere from $30 to $50.” The little boy reached into his pocket and pulled out some change. “I have $2.37″ he said. “May I please look at them?” The storeowner smiled and whistled and out of the kennel came Lady, who ran down the aisle of his store followed by five teeny, tiny balls of fur.

One puppy was lagging considerably behind. Immediately the little boy singled out the lagging, limping puppy and said, “What’s wrong with that little dog?” The storeowner explained that the veterinarian had examined the little puppy and had discovered that it didn’t have a hip socket. It would always limp. It would always be lame. The little boy became excited. “That is the puppy I want to buy.” The storeowner said, “No, you don’t want to buy that little dog. If you really want him, I’ll just give him to you.”

The little boy got quite upset. He looked straight into the store owner’s eyes, pointing his finger, and said, “I don’t want you to give him to me. That little dog is worth every bit as much as all the other dogs and I’ll pay full price. In fact, I’ll give you $2.37 now and 50 cents a month until I have him paid for.”

The storeowner countered, “You really don’t want to buy this little dog. He is never going to be able to run and jump and play with you like the other puppies.” To his surprise, the little boy reached down and rolled up his pant leg to reveal a badly twisted, crippled left leg supported by a big metal brace. He looked up at the storeowner and softly replied, “Well, I don’t run so well myself, and the little puppy will need someone who understands.”

“Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” ~ Mark Twain