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Popular Bullying Targets

Bullying TargetsWhen a child is bullied, whose responsibility is it? There are arguments and there are laws but as of now there are no specific answers. It seems to depend on where the bullying occurred and how the bullying was committed. Critics often blame the schools and some blame the parents but what does blame accomplish? The answer is absolutely nothing!

If you have children who are popular, you may think that they will not be bullying targets. That is not true. Since there are more people who are concerned about the causes and repercussions of bullying, more studies are being done.

The fact used to be that popular kids ruled the schools and sometimes that is still true but sometimes it is not. No longer are just the kids who are “different” victimized. There is a recent study that shows that the number of bullying targets who are high on the socially successful ladder in school are at an increased risk of being teased, ostracized and threatened.

Bullying Targets Can Be Popular

This may not make sense to you but there is an explanation about popular bullying targets that does make sense. The reality is that the kids who are “almost” as popular Bullying Targetsare targeting their rivals in order to knock them down a few rungs. That is the “cheaters” way of stealing their places on the top rung of the popularity ladder.

Robert Faris, associate professor of sociology at the University of California Davis and Diane Felmlee, professor of sociology at Pennsylvania State University investigated the subject of bullying targets. Their findings were published in American Sociological Review. They studied more than 4,200 students in the eighth, ninth, and tenth grades during the 2004-2005 school year.

In the fall, they asked students to record their five closest friendships from which they created a “map” that indicated the shortest paths to the most students with a higher social status. The questions were asked again in the spring of the same academic year. They compared the answers with reports of students being victimized. The victimization included verbal insults, physical aggression, being the target of damaging rumors, and continued and relentless harassment.

An example of their findings regarding popular bullying targets:

Students who started the academic year in the 50th popularity percentile and moved into the 95th popularity percentile had a 25% increased chance of being bullied over those who remained in the 50th popularity percentile. This pertained to both boys and girls.

To be continued.

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Bullying Breaks Spirits

bullyingAre you one of the adults who say that you know all about bullying because you remember what it was like when you were a kid? I don’t think that’s true and I’ll tell you why. What you experienced as a kid is kind of like the bullying that I experienced on the farm when Miracle the cat scratched my nose. I was sad and it hurt me and after that, I tried to stay away from her because I didn’t want the bullying to happen to me again. I was afraid of her but I learned how to keep out of her way. It didn’t make me feel good but it didn’t break my spirit either.

Bullying

When you were a kid, maybe somebody tripped you or took your lunch money or pulled your hair. Maybe somebody called you a name and you felt really sad. Guess what? Bullying is different now. It is different because now it’s not one or two kids being mean. It’s a whole network of kids being mean.

Think about it this way. Have you ever been in a big crowd of people… maybe going to a sports arena or on a busy street in a city? Think about how you would feel if each one of the people in that crowd said something mean to you. Maybe they said you were ugly or fat or thin or gay or stupid.  If you kept hearing the same unkind words to you over and over again, you might start to believe them. Then when you got home, they followed you and kept saying the same mean things and you couldn’t escape them. That is kind of like the kind of bullying kids experience now.

Well, that’s kind of what kids go through because of technology when they are bullied.  There are never ending times when kids are put down and told that they are worthless and that nobody cares about them. They aren’t adults and they don’t understand that difficult times will pass and that they will feel better about themselves again.

When they hit rock bottom, so many kids want to escape their pain anyway possible. We all need to make a difference for those kids by letting them know how much we care and we need to do that right away. We need to stand up for them and help to stop the bullying. We need to do that before it’s too late for them and for the people who love them.

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Ali Mohammadian – True Hero

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Christmas Prayer from a Bullied Child

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A Bullied Child?

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How to Stop Bullies from Being Cruel

Bullies are Cruel and that’s why I am not a bully and won’t be a bully. When people are cruel, they make others feel bad about themselves and that’s not something I want to do! I bet you don’t want to bully either. Why do some people want to be cruel? I really don’t getContinue Reading

Now Is the Perfect Time to Talk to Your Kids about Bullying

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Teach Kids that Cool Kids Should Be Kind Kids

School is starting and as a parent, you are really proud that your kids are the popular and cool ones, right? Of course you are and why should it be any other way? You were a cool and popular kid when you were young so why wouldn’t your children be? After all, the “geeky” parentsContinue Reading

How to Prepare Kids for the Start of School

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Parents: Importance of School Safety Over School Supplies

As the start of the new school year approaches, many parents prepare their children by purchasing school supplies, school clothes and shoes and making sure that all summer reading was completed. While doing those things are important, there are other things that are far more crucial. As children face a new year, they need toContinue Reading