What is the deal with bullying? I mean really? What is it that give bullies such a charge when they are mean?
Maybe the bullies…
- Don’t feel empathy and so they can’t understand how bullied kids feel.
- Think there is some pay off for hurting other kids.
- Are jealous of other kids.
- Don’t have to suffer consequences.
- Haven’t been taught about The Golden Rule.
Whatever the reasons are, something needs to be done to stop them. I think a lot of people make bullying situations too complicated. When that happens, the solution to stopping the bullies gets too complicated. When solutions are too complicated, nobody succeeds.
Who wants complicated? Being nice is simple and so should the way we stop bullying. Since bullies aren’t kind we need to do simple things to stop them. When the bullying situations are explained in simple ways, the solutions can be explained in simple ways that everyone gets. When they get it, they can succeed at stopping the bullies.
Bullying – Make It Simple
If you are a kid:
- Team up with a kid who is being bullied and ask other kids to join your team. There is strength in numbers.
- Ask someone specific to team up with you if you are being bullied. Then ask that kid to get others to team up with you.
- Try not to show your sadness when someone hurts your feelings. Instead you can say something like, “ Does making a comment like that help you feel better about yourself?” And then walk away.
If you are an adult:
- Pay closer attention to what is happening with the kids around you.
- Let kids know that bullying will not be tolerated and give appropriate consequences.
- Be fair and make sure that the consequences apply to everyone. Don’t make excuses. Bullying is bullying.
That’s pretty simple… don’t you think? Kindness is shameless and painless. I would love to have you on the Rugby Jones’ No Bully Zones Team! How about it?
So you think you have it bad? There is a quote that comes to mind, “I felt sorry for myself because I had no shoes until I saw a man who had no feet.” The lesson that we must teach our children is that no matter what difficulties come our way in life, we can overcome them with the right attitude.
Today’s post is about another hero and she has an attitude that will knock your socks off. Her name is Amy Purdy and in 1999, she contracted bacterial meningitis. She was 19 years old at the time and the doctors gave her less than a 2% chance to live. As unbelievable as it may seem, Amy Purdy survived but lost both of her legs below the knee. She later needed a kidney transplant, which she received from her father a week before her twenty-first birthday.
Amy Purdy had been an avid snow boarder before the meningitis. She wanted to compete in the sport again but there were no prosthetic legs available that would help. What did she do? She built her own! Amy co-founded Adaptive Action Sports which a non-profit organization that introduces people with physical challenges to action sports. Amy was instrumental in advocating the inclusion of snowboarding into the 2014 Paralympic Games.
All of the details of Amy Purdy’s biography pale in comparison to her enthusiasm and courage. They say a picture is worth a thousand words. In this case, a video is worth thousands of words. In addition to everything else that Amy does, Amy Purdy dances. I mean she really dances. Amy and her partner Derek Hough competed in Dancing with The Stars.
If you or someone you know need some true inspiration, this video of Amy Purdy promises exactly that!
Amy Purdy is not handicapped!
As you watch, think about the words of Amy Purdy, “I can still do the stuff that I love, I just have to do it differently.”
Amy Purdy is our newest hero!