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Modeling Acceptance

modeling acceptanceA young boy in middle school came home one day and excitedly told his mother that he had met a new friend. He said that his new friend was really smart and that the two of them were going to work on a project for the science fair together. He said that it was going to be a project about a cow’s heart. The mom was excited for her son because of his new friend and because of his enthusiasm about the science fair.

A couple of days later, the young boy asked if his new friend could come over to play after school the next day. The mom said that it would be fine and told him to ask the boy’s mother to call so that they could work out the details. That evening the two mothers spoke and exchanged addresses, bus numbers and the like and it was all arranged. The new friend would ride home on the bus with her son and his mother would come at 5:50 PM to pick up her son to take him home.

The next day, the two boys got off the bus and ran into the kitchen hungry for a snack. The young boy introduced his new friend to his mom and they began to devour their milk and cookies before heading outside to play. The time few by and the mom was thrilled that the boys got along so well because that wasn’t always the case with new friends who came to visit. When it began to get dark, the mom called the boys inside and suggested that they talk about their science project.

Modeling Acceptance:

Sometime later the doorbell rang and the visiting boy’s mother could be seen through the window. The mom invited her inside and the two mothers discussed the events of the day and their happiness about the new friendship that was developing. The mothers had a lot in common and looked forward to the possibility of their own growing friendship.

The mother and son left after the young boy thanked his new friend’s mother for the milk and cookies and for inviting him. All were happy and waved goodbye.

The young boy who had invited his new friend to play went upstairs to work on his homework before dinner. The mom felt good about the afternoon and happily prepared the family’s dinner.

Sometime later, the young boy came running down the stairs shouting, “Mom! Mom!” “What is it?” the mom asked. Her son said, “I forgot to tell you that he was black.” The mother gave her son a hug and said, “I did notice that.” Her son said, “But I forgot to tell you that when I asked if he could come over to play.” Happily the mother realized that she was modeling acceptance for her son. The mom looked at him and asked, “Why would you think that you should have told me that?” The young boy answered, “The bus driver said ‘I hope you told your parents the color of your friend’s skin before you invited him.’”

All the mother could do was hug her son and tell him how proud she was of him that the color of someone’s skin didn’t register as important to him. She said, “Those of us who don’t see color, race, or any other differences as important are the lucky ones. Do you know why?” He looked up at her. “Because that means that there are so many more people in the world who can become our friends than will become the friends of the people who think those differences matter.” The people who aren’t modeling acceptance lose out on so much happiness and friendship.

The mom made a mental note to follow through on the bus driver’s comment.

Photo: woodleywonderworks 

Keenia Williams and Ellen

keenia williamsSometimes there is good news and sometimes there is some not so good news and that makes me feel sad. I know we can’t always hear about happy things but sometimes that’s exactly what we need. Today was one of those days for me because I felt a little sad about something. Then my mom and I watched the Ellen show and what we saw made us cry happy tears and now we both feel happy. I want you to know the story about Keenia Williams so that it can make you happy but also because maybe you can help her.

Keenia Williams’ daughter thinks she is a super hero and with good reason. On two different occasions over several years, Keenia Williams happened to be in the vicinity of serious car accidents. How she reacted showed great courage, strength and love for her fellow man. She managed to get the accident victims out of a tangled car and burning truck in order to save them. With almost super human strength, she saved their lives. Keenia made her daughter proud enough to tell anyone and everyone about her “super hero” mom.

Keenia said that she didn’t have the best life growing up. She said she wouldn’t change any of it because it helped her to be strong. Keenia said that her life has helped her to teach her daughter not to be selfish and to appreciate everything she is given. She said, “All I want to do is provide for my daughter.” If you watch the video below, you will understand why we want to add her to our Wall of Heroes.

Keenia is having a difficult time earning money in her area and is trying to get a job. PLEASE! If you know of anyone who might be able to help her get a job, you can you can read the next paragraph from Ellen’s show and do something to help her.

“Ellen met Keenia and was astounded by her spirit. Keenia is looking for work in the San Francisco area. Her dream is to work with at-risk youth and to help them get back on their feet. She has experience working with non-profit organizations and would certainly make an amazing addition to any organization. If you have a job for Keenia, or any leads she should know about, send them to us right here. “

Keenia Williams is the newest member on my wall of heroes. Partly because she saved those two people but even more because of the way she is mothering her daughter. That little girl may not have all the money that she might want but she sure has a great start to her life with one of the best mothers ever!

Keenia Williams

Keenia Williams you go girl! You are my hero too and that’s why you are on Rugby’s Hero Wall!

Bullying Breaks Spirits

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Conflict Resolution: Teaching Children

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Christmas Prayer from a Bullied Child

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Dare to Live

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Thanksgiving Wish – The Children

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Teaching Empathy

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