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Empathy Is Caring

empathyWhen I think about things that have made me the happiest, I think about people and animals that have shown how much they care because they had empathy. Empathy shows caring. Don’t you agree? It’s really strange because I keep hearing people say that money will make them happy or a bigger house or a nicer car will make all of the difference. I hear kids say that if they could be on the football team or in the popular group, they would be happy.

Do you know what I think? I think that when people place focus on one special thing to make them happy, they will miss all of the wonderful things that might make all of the difference for them. They forget to show or appreciate empathy.

Someone shared this story with us. I think it may change your day. At the very least, it will help you understand caring and empathy.

Empathy

“A storeowner was tacking a sign above his door that read “Puppies for Sale.” Signs like that have a way of attracting small children, and sure enough a little boy appeared under the storeowner’s sign. “How much are you going to sell the puppies for?” the little boy asked. The storeowner replied, “anywhere from $30 to $50.” The little boy reached into his pocket and pulled out some change. “I have $2.37″ he said. “May I please look at them?” The storeowner smiled and whistled and out of the kennel came Lady, who ran down the aisle of his store followed by five teeny, tiny balls of fur.

One puppy was lagging considerably behind. Immediately the little boy singled out the lagging, limping puppy and said, “What’s wrong with that little dog?” The storeowner explained that the veterinarian had examined the little puppy and had discovered that it didn’t have a hip socket. It would always limp. It would always be lame. The little boy became excited. “That is the puppy I want to buy.” The storeowner said, “No, you don’t want to buy that little dog. If you really want him, I’ll just give him to you.”

The little boy got quite upset. He looked straight into the store owner’s eyes, pointing his finger, and said, “I don’t want you to give him to me. That little dog is worth every bit as much as all the other dogs and I’ll pay full price. In fact, I’ll give you $2.37 now and 50 cents a month until I have him paid for.”

The storeowner countered, “You really don’t want to buy this little dog. He is never going to be able to run and jump and play with you like the other puppies.” To his surprise, the little boy reached down and rolled up his pant leg to reveal a badly twisted, crippled left leg supported by a big metal brace. He looked up at the storeowner and softly replied, “Well, I don’t run so well myself, and the little puppy will need someone who understands.”

“Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” ~ Mark Twain

Bullying: Make It Simple

bullyingWhat is the deal with bullying? I mean really? What is it that give bullies such a charge when they are mean?

Maybe the bullies…

  • Don’t feel empathy and so they can’t understand how bullied kids feel.
  • Think there is some pay off for hurting other kids.
  • Are jealous of other kids.
  • Don’t have to suffer consequences.
  • Haven’t been taught about The Golden Rule.

Whatever the reasons are, something needs to be done to stop them. I think a lot of people make bullying situations too complicated. When that happens, the solution to stopping the bullies gets too complicated. When solutions are too complicated, nobody succeeds.

Who wants complicated? Being nice is simple and so should the way we stop bullying. Since bullies aren’t kind we need to do simple things to stop them. When the bullying situations are explained in simple ways, the solutions can be explained in simple ways that everyone gets. When they get it, they can succeed at stopping the bullies.

Bullying – Make It Simple

If you are a kid:

  • Team up with a kid who is being bullied and ask other kids to join your team. There is strength in numbers.
  • Ask someone specific to team up with you if you are being bullied. Then ask that kid to get others to team up with you.
  • Try not to show your sadness when someone hurts your feelings. Instead you can say something like, “ Does making a comment like that help you feel better about yourself?” And then walk away.

If you are an adult:

  • Pay closer attention to what is happening with the kids around you.
  • Let kids know that bullying will not be tolerated and give appropriate consequences.
  • Be fair and make sure that the consequences apply to everyone. Don’t make excuses. Bullying is bullying.

That’s pretty simple… don’t you think? Kindness is shameless and painless. I would love to have you on the Rugby Jones’ No Bully Zones Team! How about it?

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