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Bullying: Make It Simple

bullyingWhat is the deal with bullying? I mean really? What is it that give bullies such a charge when they are mean?

Maybe the bullies…

  • Don’t feel empathy and so they can’t understand how bullied kids feel.
  • Think there is some pay off for hurting other kids.
  • Are jealous of other kids.
  • Don’t have to suffer consequences.
  • Haven’t been taught about The Golden Rule.

Whatever the reasons are, something needs to be done to stop them. I think a lot of people make bullying situations too complicated. When that happens, the solution to stopping the bullies gets too complicated. When solutions are too complicated, nobody succeeds.

Who wants complicated? Being nice is simple and so should the way we stop bullying. Since bullies aren’t kind we need to do simple things to stop them. When the bullying situations are explained in simple ways, the solutions can be explained in simple ways that everyone gets. When they get it, they can succeed at stopping the bullies.

Bullying – Make It Simple

If you are a kid:

  • Team up with a kid who is being bullied and ask other kids to join your team. There is strength in numbers.
  • Ask someone specific to team up with you if you are being bullied. Then ask that kid to get others to team up with you.
  • Try not to show your sadness when someone hurts your feelings. Instead you can say something like, “ Does making a comment like that help you feel better about yourself?” And then walk away.

If you are an adult:

  • Pay closer attention to what is happening with the kids around you.
  • Let kids know that bullying will not be tolerated and give appropriate consequences.
  • Be fair and make sure that the consequences apply to everyone. Don’t make excuses. Bullying is bullying.

That’s pretty simple… don’t you think? Kindness is shameless and painless. I would love to have you on the Rugby Jones’ No Bully Zones Team! How about it?

Rugby Jones Speaks from the Heart

Rugby Jones

Hi. My name is Rugby and I am a dog.

I hope you’re a kid and not a green frog.

‘Cuz frogs won’t get what I’m going to say.

All frogs think about is saying, “rivet” all day.

 

I act like a kid and talk like one too.

And all that I want is to be friends with you.

Do you feel different or hurt in some way?

I sure do at times every single day.

 

If you’re like me, sometimes you’re sad.

And that’s okay ‘cuz sad is not bad!

I used to be just like all other dogs.

I could run and play and jump over logs.

 

Then everything changed the day I got hurt.

I needed to get wheels ‘cuz my legs didn’t work.

Is there something about you that isn’t the same?

And other kids laugh and you feel ashamed?

 

I love being different ‘cuz that makes me cool.

Now that we’re friends, let’s visit your school.

Everyone will know that we are so tight.

And kids will be nice ‘cuz they know I can bite.

 

Isn’t that great? It’s you and it’s me.

We’ll always be friends. I hope you agree.

Wherever we go, no one is the same.

They are different colors and don’t have the same name.

 

There are kids who are dark and kids who are light.

Kids who can’t hear and kids with no sight.

There are kids who are wide and kids who are tall.

And kids who don’t know that they are children at all.

 

There are kids who are fast and kids who are slow

And kids who play ball and kids who can sew.

There are kids who are rich and kids who are poor.

Kids climbing trees and kids on the floor.

 

There are kids with one leg and kids with one arm.

Kids from the city and kids from a farm.

Now what do you think about you and about me?

We may be different but so are kids that we see.

Rugby Jones

Knowing everyone’s different in some way

Can make us feel better and brighten our day.

So let’s make the most of what we can do.

It’s all about me and it’s all about you.

 

We are the ones who can reach up to the stars

The future is great ‘cuz the future is ours.

So now that you get that it’s great to be you.

Let’s teach that to all so they’ll get it too.

 

So what is the message that kids need to know?

It’s about understanding and making it grow.

It’s not about wrong or about being right.

It’s about having courage and avoiding the fight.

 

Now that we’re friends, we can always stand tall

Even if we’re short or can’t walk at all.

Being your friend will be my new role

Pride in your differences will be your new goal.

 

Are you feeling ready? I am so let’s go!

It’s you and it’s me meeting new friends and foe.

So what do you think that we should do next?

I have some ideas and they’re based on respect.

Rugby Jones

Respect and kindness will help us be strong.

When there is more kindness, more kids will belong.

Understanding all others is what we have learned.

Respect and acceptance is what we have earned.

 

You are my buddy and we are both cool!

Let’s show the whole world that differences rule!

Rugby Jones

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