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Popular Bullying Targets

Bullying TargetsWhen a child is bullied, whose responsibility is it? There are arguments and there are laws but as of now there are no specific answers. It seems to depend on where the bullying occurred and how the bullying was committed. Critics often blame the schools and some blame the parents but what does blame accomplish? The answer is absolutely nothing!

If you have children who are popular, you may think that they will not be bullying targets. That is not true. Since there are more people who are concerned about the causes and repercussions of bullying, more studies are being done.

The fact used to be that popular kids ruled the schools and sometimes that is still true but sometimes it is not. No longer are just the kids who are “different” victimized. There is a recent study that shows that the number of bullying targets who are high on the socially successful ladder in school are at an increased risk of being teased, ostracized and threatened.

Bullying Targets Can Be Popular

This may not make sense to you but there is an explanation about popular bullying targets that does make sense. The reality is that the kids who are “almost” as popular Bullying Targetsare targeting their rivals in order to knock them down a few rungs. That is the “cheaters” way of stealing their places on the top rung of the popularity ladder.

Robert Faris, associate professor of sociology at the University of California Davis and Diane Felmlee, professor of sociology at Pennsylvania State University investigated the subject of bullying targets. Their findings were published in American Sociological Review. They studied more than 4,200 students in the eighth, ninth, and tenth grades during the 2004-2005 school year.

In the fall, they asked students to record their five closest friendships from which they created a “map” that indicated the shortest paths to the most students with a higher social status. The questions were asked again in the spring of the same academic year. They compared the answers with reports of students being victimized. The victimization included verbal insults, physical aggression, being the target of damaging rumors, and continued and relentless harassment.

An example of their findings regarding popular bullying targets:

Students who started the academic year in the 50th popularity percentile and moved into the 95th popularity percentile had a 25% increased chance of being bullied over those who remained in the 50th popularity percentile. This pertained to both boys and girls.

To be continued.

First Photo: Steven Pisano

Second Photo: SLU Cook Business

Lazylegz Patuelli Lives “No Excuses, No Limits.”

Luca “Lazylegz” Patuelli was born with Arthrogryposis (multiplex congenita) which is a rare disorder that causes limited joint movement and poor muscle growth. In addition, Luca was diagnosed with scoliosis at eight years of age and had a 70˚ spine curvature at thirteen. He had surgery that involved fusing eight vertebrae and the insertion of a titanium rod. He has had sixteen surgeries.

This young man grew up in Bethesda, Maryland and never has allowed his disability to slow him down. He has enjoyed participating in swimming, diving, skiing, horseback riding, sailing and skateboarding.

When Luca was fifteen, he became interested in breakdancing. Because of his disability, Luca learned breakdancing moves and modified them to create his own unique style. Luca has powerful upper body strength and he utilizes that strength along with his crutches to do his breakdancing.

In 2007, Lazylegz Patuelli created ILL-Abilities™, which is an international crew that is made up of the world’s best “ill-abled” dancers from Canada, USA, Chile and Holland. The goal of this amazing team is to spread the message that being creative, positive, and able to adapt to adversity opens many possibilities. Their words of wisdom resonate with all who see them and hear their message. “No Excuses, No Limits.”

Lazylegz Patuelli

You are our hero because you embody everything that it takes to be a hero at a time when kids need heroes so very much. Please visit my Wall of Heroes to see some amazing people!

Lost: One More Bullied Kid

Seventeen year old Carlos Vigil of Valencia County, New Mexico has now become a statistic. He tried to make a difference for bullied kids but attempted suicide himself. The image below is the last Twitter message that Carlos sent. He was taken off of life support yesterday. Even though people were aware that he wasContinue Reading

Where Do You Stand?

Pretend that you are the actors and your children are the audience. What are you teaching them by your words and actions? Think about these questions. Remember that your children see past the masks that you wear in front of other people. QUESTION TO ASK YOURSELF What does it mean to have a positive attitudeContinue Reading

Suggestion Boxes

Kids don’t want to tell adults about important things because they can’t trust that the adults will not let everyone know the kid who “told.” All it takes to have kids turn on a kid who tries to do the right thing by reporting an important event is to have the adult tell others thatContinue Reading

Our Newest Heroes: Tyrell Clay and Those Who Modeled Kindness

We salute heroes. We share stories about people who do something that many people wouldn’t or couldn’t do. Our heroes make a difference for someone or for many and they come from every walk of life and every age. Our newest hero is a student at Miller High School in Corpus Christi, Texas. His nameContinue Reading

Just an Innocent and Loving Child: Adalia Rose

Our newest hero is Adalia Rose Williams. She is a bright, funny, talented, loving and courageous little girl. Her life would be perfect except that one thing makes a perfect life out of reach for her. Amelia suffers from a premature aging condition called Progeria. The condition is called Hutchinson-Gilford Progeria Syndrome and it occursContinue Reading

Our Hero: Eli Reimer (and His Dad)

Elisha “Eli” Reimer is our newest hero. He is fifteen years old and the first person with Down syndrome to reach the base station of Mount Everest. This amazing young man has a passion for sports and his enthusiasm for “life” is contagious. Eli gave the world yet another reason to come to the realizationContinue Reading

And The Winner Has Autism!

As a continuation on the subject of Autism, there has been some recent news that should offer hope and an understanding of what people with Autism can accomplish. The news is about Alexis Wineman, who was crowned Miss Montana. She was the first Miss America Contestant who had been diagnosed with Autism in  the pageantsContinue Reading

What Is Autism?

The purpose of today’s post is to give readers who don’t know much about Autism, some important information. For those of you who have a child or adult with Autism in your lives, our next post deals more with perspective and hope. Autism is a developmental disorder that occurs in the first 3 years ofContinue Reading