Recently, I read a book called, The Last Boys Picked: Helping Boys Who Don’t Play Sports Survive Bullies and Boyhood and wrote a review on it. In an effort to help kids who are not popular due to a lack of ability in athletics, I wanted to share the book and my review with you. The book is available on Amazon.
Bullies and Boyhood
The Last Boys Picked: Helping Boys Who Don’t Play Sports Survive Bullies and Boyhood hit home for me. I wish it had been available when my sons were young. I have painful memories of times when one of my sons was up at bat. Strike one. Strike Two. I begged God, “Please let him make contact with the ball. Please just let him make contact.“ Strike three. My heart broke as I watched his shoulders drop and his face look toward the ground as he walked back to the dugout.
At the time, I thought that this was part of growing up. Had I understood more about the process, I would have handled things differently. Dr. Edgette’s perspective and approach toward alleviating the pain inflicted on boys who are not “jocks” or even slightly athletic are insightful and long overdue. She highlights the means by which adults can help boys make their way through and survive the “all boys must play sports gauntlet.”
Because this book is specific to boys and sports, it zeroes in on how sports have been but should not continue be a requirement for a boy’s rite of passage into adulthood.
I highly recommend The Last Boys Picked: Helping Boys Who Don’t Play Sports Survive Bullies and Boyhood for parents and counselors alike.
Bullies are everywhere and adults often need help in identifying issues and sparking communications with their children. This book offers so much to help these children have an “easier go of it.”
When parents are aware of bullying situations involving their children and nothing is being done to help, frustration is heightened. Such is the case with a mother named Sarah Cymbaluk. She resorted to uploading a video on Facebook to make people aware of the fact that her daughter was being bullied.
Apparently, the bullied child went into the principal’s office more than five times and tried to explain the bullying that occurred on the playground and on the bus. According to the child’s mother, this precious little girl was told to ignore the bullying and all that she was experiencing as a bullied target.
Bullied and Ignored in Fosston
Nohner, the Fosston Superintendent says that he was unaware of the bullying situation and that the issue had slipped through the cracks. That is unacceptable… tragic… heart wrenching… inexcusable and downright wrong! He seemed to be exasperated by the fact that Sarah Cymbaluk had posted the video of her children crying and talking about the bullying on Facebook.
Nohner is quoted as saying, “I found out about the situation a couple of days ago and I think it could have been resolved without going to Facebook.” Obviously that is not true because nobody did anything to help this innocent child for more than four months. It wasn’t until the video was posted on Facebook that anyone seemed to care or react.
Even worse was the following statement from Superintendent Nohner, “Obviously somewhere down the line it fell through the cracks. So we need to review our procedures and policies and do a better job articulating to the parents what we’re doing.” How can a person who is in the position of being a school superintendent make an excuse like that? How can people in authority ignore the pleas of an 8 year old bullied child?
Sarah Cymbaluk posted a video of her 8-year-old daughter, Anna, describing bullies at school with her brother, 7-year-old Benjamin. If you watch the video below, you will see the pain that this bullied child is experiencing.
To all mothers… Sarah is an example of a mother’s doing what needed to be done to help her child. If something needs to be done for your child… do something!