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Election Day ~ Setting Examples

Election DayElection Day is today. That means that today is the day that adults vote for the people they want to be in office. Do you know what I don’t get? They are supposed to set an example for kids but it seems like that isn’t happening when there are elections. On the TV there are all kinds of ads telling people that this person lies or this person doesn’t pay taxes or this person doesn’t care about people.

Why don’t they talk about the things that could set a good example for kids? I don’t think there are any schools that would allow Election Day as a time to badmouth the other kids who are running for office. I don’t think they would let a kid call another kid a liar just to get more votes. Why should adults be allowed to do unkind things just because it is Election Day?

Election Day ~ Setting Examples

I heard a man say a curse word in the store the other day. Election DayThen I heard the son say the same word and the dad yelled at him. He told him never to say that word. The boy said, “But you said it Dad.” Then I heard the dad say something that didn’t make any sense. I heard him say,  “Do as I say not as I do!” 

Why would any adult think that kids won’t copy the things that they do? I mean that is really dumb. Kids think their parents are everything and they want to be like them so they want to do the same things that their parents do. If a parent calls someone a liar or stupid, the kids will think that they can and should call other kids names.

I may not be an adult but I get it. I get that Election Day is a day that adults can teach kids a lot about how to live their lives in a kind way. That means that politicians, parents, teachers and every single adult everywhere should set a good example by good actions. They shouldn’t expect kids to do as they say but not as they do.

Bullies and Boyhood

bulliesRecently, I read a book called, The Last Boys Picked: Helping Boys Who Don’t Play Sports Survive Bullies and Boyhood and wrote a review on it. In an effort to help kids who are not popular due to a lack of ability in athletics, I wanted to share the book and my review with you. The book is available on Amazon.

Bullies and Boyhood

The Last Boys Picked: Helping Boys Who Don’t Play Sports Survive Bullies and Boyhood hit home for me. I wish it had been available when my sons were young. I have painful memories of times when one of my sons was up at bat. Strike one. Strike Two. I begged God, “Please let him make contact with the ball. Please just let him make contact.“ Strike three. My heart broke as I watched his shoulders drop and his face look toward the ground as he walked back to the dugout.

At the time, I thought that this was part of growing up. Had I understood more about the process, I would have handled things differently. Dr. Edgette’s perspective and approach toward alleviating the pain inflicted on boys who are not “jocks” or even slightly athletic are insightful and long overdue. She highlights the means by which adults can help boys make their way through and survive the “all boys must play sports gauntlet.”

Because this book is specific to boys and sports, it zeroes in on how sports have been but should not continue be a requirement for a boy’s rite of passage into adulthood.

I highly recommend The Last Boys Picked: Helping Boys Who Don’t Play Sports Survive Bullies and Boyhood for parents and counselors alike.

Bullies are everywhere and adults often need help in identifying issues and sparking communications with their children. This book offers so much to help these children have an “easier go of it.”