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Bullying Breaks Spirits

bullyingAre you one of the adults who say that you know all about bullying because you remember what it was like when you were a kid? I don’t think that’s true and I’ll tell you why. What you experienced as a kid is kind of like the bullying that I experienced on the farm when Miracle the cat scratched my nose. I was sad and it hurt me and after that, I tried to stay away from her because I didn’t want the bullying to happen to me again. I was afraid of her but I learned how to keep out of her way. It didn’t make me feel good but it didn’t break my spirit either.

Bullying

When you were a kid, maybe somebody tripped you or took your lunch money or pulled your hair. Maybe somebody called you a name and you felt really sad. Guess what? Bullying is different now. It is different because now it’s not one or two kids being mean. It’s a whole network of kids being mean.

Think about it this way. Have you ever been in a big crowd of people… maybe going to a sports arena or on a busy street in a city? Think about how you would feel if each one of the people in that crowd said something mean to you. Maybe they said you were ugly or fat or thin or gay or stupid.  If you kept hearing the same unkind words to you over and over again, you might start to believe them. Then when you got home, they followed you and kept saying the same mean things and you couldn’t escape them. That is kind of like the kind of bullying kids experience now.

Well, that’s kind of what kids go through because of technology when they are bullied.  There are never ending times when kids are put down and told that they are worthless and that nobody cares about them. They aren’t adults and they don’t understand that difficult times will pass and that they will feel better about themselves again.

When they hit rock bottom, so many kids want to escape their pain anyway possible. We all need to make a difference for those kids by letting them know how much we care and we need to do that right away. We need to stand up for them and help to stop the bullying. We need to do that before it’s too late for them and for the people who love them.

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How to Prepare Kids for the Start of School

school kids 2Buying school supplies can be the fun part but other preparations are far more important. These preparations are important because they can add to the confidence your children have when they start the new school year.

1. Nurture independence in your child. Remember that you will not be present when he or she deals with school events and classes. Have conversations with your children and discuss responsibilities and what is expected.

  • Organization of materials
  • Writing down assignments
  • Bringing home homework

You can prepare younger children making sure that they can write their names and tie their own shoes so that they won’t need assistance. It will be less likely that bullies will start targeting your child. Yes. Bullies are out there in elementary schools too.

2. Re-Establish School Routines. A great time to get kids used to the new school schedule is a week or two before school starts. Schedule morning activities and set the alarm at the same time that you will when school starts. For younger children, you can even start having them eat breakfast, lunch and snacks at about the same time as will be the case when they are at school.

3. When the time comes, talk to the teachers and attend school open houses. This is a great time to meet your child’s teachers, school counselors, the principle, and front desk staff. Often you will get a good idea of each teacher’s expectations. Teachers are all different and some may focus on accuracy and others may focus on learning new skills. It is always a good idea to have the schedule of tests so that you can be aware of the specific preparations for a test.

4. Designate a particular place where children place their knapsacks, etc. That way, there will be no last minute panics when they can’t find something. Post it notes on a book bag for reminders helps too.

5. Set up a specific place and time when children do homework. Whether parents are working outside of the home or in the home, the kitchen table can be a great place for younger children. Parents should be available to help if needed and parents who are in the process of preparing a meal are right there.

6. Plan for sick days. Line up a trusted person or arrange a group of parents that can pick up your child from school in the case that you can’t get away from work. Don’t forget to sign the appropriate paperwork for the school to release your child to them.

7. If at all possible, working parents should try to be home when children arrive home from school for the first few weeks.

As you prepare your children, please keep in mind the possibility that they could be bullying or could be bullied. Teach them that they could be the ones to help stop bullying  by their example. Watch them and listen to them. You won’t be sorry!

Is Your Child Well Groomed? Please say, “No.”

When I was a kid, being well groomed meant that people had clean and ironed clothes, clean hair that was combed appropriately, shined shoes and if they were male, cleanly shaven. When someone was described as well groomed, it was a compliment. It doesn’t mean the same thing today. The meaning has taken a frightening…Continue Reading