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Popular Bullying Targets

Bullying TargetsWhen a child is bullied, whose responsibility is it? There are arguments and there are laws but as of now there are no specific answers. It seems to depend on where the bullying occurred and how the bullying was committed. Critics often blame the schools and some blame the parents but what does blame accomplish? The answer is absolutely nothing!

If you have children who are popular, you may think that they will not be bullying targets. That is not true. Since there are more people who are concerned about the causes and repercussions of bullying, more studies are being done.

The fact used to be that popular kids ruled the schools and sometimes that is still true but sometimes it is not. No longer are just the kids who are “different” victimized. There is a recent study that shows that the number of bullying targets who are high on the socially successful ladder in school are at an increased risk of being teased, ostracized and threatened.

Bullying Targets Can Be Popular

This may not make sense to you but there is an explanation about popular bullying targets that does make sense. The reality is that the kids who are “almost” as popular Bullying Targetsare targeting their rivals in order to knock them down a few rungs. That is the “cheaters” way of stealing their places on the top rung of the popularity ladder.

Robert Faris, associate professor of sociology at the University of California Davis and Diane Felmlee, professor of sociology at Pennsylvania State University investigated the subject of bullying targets. Their findings were published in American Sociological Review. They studied more than 4,200 students in the eighth, ninth, and tenth grades during the 2004-2005 school year.

In the fall, they asked students to record their five closest friendships from which they created a “map” that indicated the shortest paths to the most students with a higher social status. The questions were asked again in the spring of the same academic year. They compared the answers with reports of students being victimized. The victimization included verbal insults, physical aggression, being the target of damaging rumors, and continued and relentless harassment.

An example of their findings regarding popular bullying targets:

Students who started the academic year in the 50th popularity percentile and moved into the 95th popularity percentile had a 25% increased chance of being bullied over those who remained in the 50th popularity percentile. This pertained to both boys and girls.

To be continued.

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Second Photo: SLU Cook Business

Ali Mohammadian – True Hero

Ali Mohammadian Good teachers… no… great teachers are everywhere! The best of the best teachers are the ones who notice the happenings in their classrooms. They not only notice, they do anything and everything to make a difference in the lives of their students.

It’s not all about teaching reading, writing, and math. It’s not all about grades and tests. It’s more than that. The teachers who are the ones who will be remembered and revered by their students are the teachers who care enough to go above and beyond for their students. They are humble and they are powerful in their actions.

Ali Mohammadian is one of these teachers. He is a man who must be commended and raised up as a hero. He showed an empathy and compassion that “trickled down” to his students. Without drama or a need to cry out for attention, this exemplary teacher made a difference. He made a difference for a bullied child and he made a difference for all of the bullied children and teachers in the world.

When Iranian schoolteacher Ali Mohammadian became aware of the fact that his student was being bullied after losing his hair because of a mysterious illness, he took a stand. He did something that not many teachers would do. He offered his support, empathy and compassion for his young bald student by shaving his own head. Within a few days his students followed his example. The whole class or over twenty students shaved their heads and the bullied child was no longer the target of unkind bullying.

Ali Mohammadian – True HeroAli Mohammadian

This exemplary man is quoted as saying, “Mahan had become isolated after going bald, his smile had disappeared from his face and I was concerned about his class performance. That’s why I thought about shaving my head to get him back on track.”

Thank you Ali Mohammadian. You are a hero and you are the kind of teacher that parents and children everywhere want to be teaching in each and every school. 

Honest Praise: Children

Here is some food for thought for parents. Most parents want their children to face life with high self-esteem. That said the way they go about influencing it differs greatly. Some parents give honest praise when children do things well. Others praise children for everything they do. What happens in each case? I have aContinue Reading

Lazylegz Patuelli Lives “No Excuses, No Limits.”

Luca “Lazylegz” Patuelli was born with Arthrogryposis (multiplex congenita) which is a rare disorder that causes limited joint movement and poor muscle growth. In addition, Luca was diagnosed with scoliosis at eight years of age and had a 70˚ spine curvature at thirteen. He had surgery that involved fusing eight vertebrae and the insertion ofContinue Reading

Special Needs Kids Christmas Gift

There are only 21 days until Christmas and I want to do something special for some special needs kids. Do you want to help me? I’m sure you do because you care and the holiday season is a special time to show how much we care. I want to give some of my Rugby JonesContinue Reading

Thanksgiving Wish – The Children

A Thanksgiving Wish for Children Everywhere Let there be someone who cares enough to make sure that a hungry child is fed. Let the children who have food learn to share. Let the oppressed children experience freedom. Let the children who are afraid learn that there are people who can be trusted. Let the childrenContinue Reading

How to Stop Bullies from Being Cruel

Bullies are Cruel and that’s why I am not a bully and won’t be a bully. When people are cruel, they make others feel bad about themselves and that’s not something I want to do! I bet you don’t want to bully either. Why do some people want to be cruel? I really don’t getContinue Reading

Find A Way!

Every adult I hear is always talking about being old. We, I have something to say about that. What is the difference between being old and being disabled? I think being disabled is way more difficult to overcome than just being a day or two or year or two older. Don’t you agree? I haveContinue Reading

Bullied by Everyone

Recently, a few similar emails have arrived on basically the same subject. These emails have been along the lines of adults who have been bullied their whole lives and continue to be bullied in  marriages, current relationships and at work. One mentioned being bullied by children also. All of the emails came from women whoContinue Reading

Teach Kids that Cool Kids Should Be Kind Kids

School is starting and as a parent, you are really proud that your kids are the popular and cool ones, right? Of course you are and why should it be any other way? You were a cool and popular kid when you were young so why wouldn’t your children be? After all, the “geeky” parentsContinue Reading